John 5:30 “I can do nothing on My own initiative. As I hear, I judge; and My judgment is just, because I do not seek My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” (NASB)
Did you get everything you needed from your dad? Did he give you affection? Was he proud of you? Did he think you were good at something? These are three things that we need from our dads, but too often many of us do not receive them. Some children are considered lucky if they receive even one of these attributes from their dad. We all need affection, admiration, and affirmation. When we don’t receive it early in life, we look for it in different places and in different ways. Today we see this need in our culture. In every generation, there are people slighted or unsupported by their fathers, and it’s reflected in their behaviors. A person who needs affection looks for it in other places. A person who didn’t receive admiration will work hard to please everyone, they become workaholics, performance driven, but it will never be enough for them. If you are struggling with any of this, you know that it becomes a vicious cycle of “I’m okay” one day, and “not okay” the next. How do you break this cycle? It’s simple, but not easy. Be the man God called you to be. Be affectionate with your wife and kids, give admiration to those who are doing a good job and give affirmation to a person who is trying. Be the man God called you to be, be like Jesus!